Life's Five Keys
Life: Relationships-Friends, Family, & Finances
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to get along with everyone and they also seem to have great amounts of personal & financial success? They never seem to have bad days and they always seem to have a smile on their face. You might be saying to yourself, well that is just not the case with me because I have tons of up and down moments! You might say to yourself that you try to be nice to everyone you meet, but it just seems that you have a character flaw in your personality. You might even feel that you can not even have a sense a balance with those closest to you such as your friends and family.
First it is understandable that you have up and down moments with family and friends, and maybe it is your personality maybe it is not, but back to the point I am trying to make here.
First it is understandable that you have up and down moments with family and friends, and maybe it is your personality maybe it is not, but back to the point I am trying to make here.
There is a key or principle to true personal and financial success that most people do not know about and that is the key of being "Friendly!" You might be saying, I am friendly but it is hard when the people you meet are not friendly back!. Well as true as that may be the key here is to know that you have to cultivate being friendly for your benefit more then theirs. The reason being is that it is very hard to be truly successful without incorporating people in some form or fashion. Whether it is from the perspective of being a great doctor or an author, or any other business/profession that you choose...you will be trying to get people to enjoy the process of interacting with you for a service that you render to them. That way they will not mind paying you whatever your price is because they have a "relationship of trust" with you. So the best way to ensure success is to cultivate being friendly
People pay and associate with people they relate to and who they feel that they can communicate with and truly understand them. People in their core want relationships and want to feel comfortable with the person they do business with whether it is buying your book or being treated by you. So developing the ability to be friendly is a vital character trait necessary for great achievement!
That being said, you do not have to commit all your energy or time in this function. You must be balanced and dont be a push over. Life is a bank account..if you make deposits expect to be able to make withdrawals....if you consistently make a deposit of friendship into people or serving them and they take, take, take, and never build you up then that is not a wise investment. Put them in the category of acquaintance because they might can contribute to a mutual beneficial relationship or transaction down the road but at this stage keep them at arms length distance.
You have to realize that you are in a process and that process takes time and for the driven person like us...most people will just not get you or understand your mindset. This does not give you the right to be mean it just gives you proper perspective on what each persons role is within your circle of relationships.
lonely times will come but it is much like your schooling...their is a time for learning and then a time for putting into practice what you have learned. So where does that leave you emotionally?? Well that is where being friendly, even though you might be alone, is your greatest asset. Back to the bank account...when you are nice and cultivate, genuine care and love for each other without putting a demand on a return from the individual, you are then making a deposit in your soul of love and good feelings. That is why people enjoy buying presents during the holidays, because it puts a good feeling in their heart for no other reason than doing something good for someone else that you hope makes them happy!
Again this takes time if it is not your nature to be nice as a habit or friendly as a habit but you will eventually be at a point where you will have developed emotional self control. It is not that you do not need other people or even want other people in your life but they will no longer have the power to dictate your emotional condition.
I am confident you will achieve all you desire to accomplish because I sense the hunger within and God never puts a desire for a meal without providing the opportunity to eat!
I can go on and on about this subject, but the main point I want you to understand is that cultivating your ability to be friendly and to build real relationships will bring more personal and financial wealth then you ever thought possible!!!
Thanks again so much and I wish you the best in all you do!!
People pay and associate with people they relate to and who they feel that they can communicate with and truly understand them. People in their core want relationships and want to feel comfortable with the person they do business with whether it is buying your book or being treated by you. So developing the ability to be friendly is a vital character trait necessary for great achievement!
That being said, you do not have to commit all your energy or time in this function. You must be balanced and dont be a push over. Life is a bank account..if you make deposits expect to be able to make withdrawals....if you consistently make a deposit of friendship into people or serving them and they take, take, take, and never build you up then that is not a wise investment. Put them in the category of acquaintance because they might can contribute to a mutual beneficial relationship or transaction down the road but at this stage keep them at arms length distance.
You have to realize that you are in a process and that process takes time and for the driven person like us...most people will just not get you or understand your mindset. This does not give you the right to be mean it just gives you proper perspective on what each persons role is within your circle of relationships.
lonely times will come but it is much like your schooling...their is a time for learning and then a time for putting into practice what you have learned. So where does that leave you emotionally?? Well that is where being friendly, even though you might be alone, is your greatest asset. Back to the bank account...when you are nice and cultivate, genuine care and love for each other without putting a demand on a return from the individual, you are then making a deposit in your soul of love and good feelings. That is why people enjoy buying presents during the holidays, because it puts a good feeling in their heart for no other reason than doing something good for someone else that you hope makes them happy!
Again this takes time if it is not your nature to be nice as a habit or friendly as a habit but you will eventually be at a point where you will have developed emotional self control. It is not that you do not need other people or even want other people in your life but they will no longer have the power to dictate your emotional condition.
I am confident you will achieve all you desire to accomplish because I sense the hunger within and God never puts a desire for a meal without providing the opportunity to eat!
I can go on and on about this subject, but the main point I want you to understand is that cultivating your ability to be friendly and to build real relationships will bring more personal and financial wealth then you ever thought possible!!!
Thanks again so much and I wish you the best in all you do!!
"I am persuaded that you can only go as far as the Wisdom, Knowledge, and Understanding that you Possess!!-Tomorrow's Dreams are accomplished by Today's Faith & Actions!!!"-Quote by Nick Ruiz
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Life: Are You Frustrated???
Well I am officially back this year with the first blog of the year!! I am sorry I took so much time off from blogging, but I had a busy end to 2009. As always feel free to leave your comments and questions and I will make sure to get back to you asap
"Are you Frustrated?" Frustration is a good thing-it tells you that what currently is; is not what should be! Right before a woman gives birth a woman becomes extremely frustrated because she knows that whats in her has to come out! Your Frustrations are...... a sign to tell you that the dream inside you is ready to come out!-Quote by Nick Ruiz
Many of us have had a frustrating 2009. Some of us were frustrated with finances, some frustrated with family, some of us with fitness, and some of us with our faith or spirituality. Frustration is a serious thing and it can help you or harm you. We have to realize what the frustration is telling us...Like I said before, the number one thing frustration is telling us is something on the outside is not matching with the dreams that are on the inside.
What pain frustration brings to us all, but I say to the dreamer and to the person with a strong drive to succeed it is even worse! We who believe in our Dreams and know in our souls and spirit that we have been purposed with destiny and a dream have the hardest time overcoming frustration because the heart beat of our Dreams get louder and louder each and every day. There is an old proverb that says "hope differed makes the heart sick" and what a true statement that is!!
The emotional tug that your dreams and goals pull on can almost be unbearable at times but it is at these times we must realize one important truth. That truth is you wouldn't be frustrated if you did not 100% believe that your dreams and goals were suppose to come true!! Those of you who are parents know that when your child brings home a bad grade and you get frustrated that you are frustrated because you are 100% certain that they can do better! To the singles who are frustrated at the dating game-you also are frustrated because in your heart of hearts you know that there is something better for you out there. What about those of us trying to lose weight or who are in business-you can be frustrated because you know that you can have a better body or business if you could just get over that last hurdle!!
The truth is I do not know anyone in the world who does not or has not experienced some degree of frustration!! What a way for us all to relate to one another-through our personal stories of frustration! So what can we do about this frustration?? I am glad you asked.
Back to the pregnant woman-as the time for her to give birth approaches she begins what they call nesting. A small period where us men say-"she went crazy!!" lol Just kidding. The reality is the woman begins to look at things different, she begins to rearrange everything in site. The crib next to the window gets moved to the wall, the chest by the wall gets moved to the window, and the chair next to the door gets moved out the room all together lol. Sounds comical doesn't it? The truth of the matter is it is not comical at all to the pregnant woman! So what is going on here??
The woman has realized that she is about to give birth and what she "thought" was in place to receive her child was not at all agreeing with what she sees on the inside of her or in her dreams!! I hope you are starting to get this powerful point! She realizes that she must re-evaluate the current situations and see what she has to "MOVE" in her life to be in order to receive her baby!! Then, once she has rearranged the room the baby is coming home to and it feels right-she turns to her husband and says "now I am ready!!"
It is an amazing thing to watch and it is almost like a puzzle. First she was frustrated then she put things in "order" according to what she felt was right and then she feels at peace in her soul and determines that she is now ready to give birth!! What an amazing display of clues given to us by nature!! It gets even better, then she begins a cycle of emotional frustration again because now that things are in order she knows well it is time to get the baby out!!
So one minute she is fine and the next she has lost her mind, but the Doctors say don't worry everything is normal that is just part of the "PROCESS" of giving birth! Ups and downs then more ups and downs then it is coming to the end of the process and doctors yell "PUSH"!!! After some heavy pushing, some blood, sweat and tears the baby is finally in her hands and it is like nothing ever happened...Absolutely amazing!!!
Did you see it??? Did you get the clues??? Frustration if used correctly can be one of the greatest motivating tools on earth to help you get your dreams accomplished!! It doesn't matter what the dream is:Finances, Family, Fitness, Faith, or Freetime use your frustrations as a clue that things need to be changed and put in order!
Once things are in order and you feel peace again then you are ready to deliver your baby or dream. Be ready because frustration comes back in the delivery room!! Ups and downs and then more ups and downs are not clues things are getting worse but they are clues that its time to birth that baby(DREAM!) Then when you just can not take it anymore then remember my story and WITH ALL YOUR MIGHT PUSH!!! Don't Give up you are almost there just look at the clues, get things back in order, rearrange what needs to be moved, and most importantly, when it is time PUSH!!!
I hope you like this blog and always comments and questions are appreciated and welcomed!!
Thanks
Nick Ruiz
If You need a boost to your Dreams and Finances check out My Best Seller in The UK-A True Life Story! Also available in The US at every Major Bookstore and online @ Barnes & Noble and Amazon.
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"Are you Frustrated?" Frustration is a good thing-it tells you that what currently is; is not what should be! Right before a woman gives birth a woman becomes extremely frustrated because she knows that whats in her has to come out! Your Frustrations are...... a sign to tell you that the dream inside you is ready to come out!-Quote by Nick Ruiz
Many of us have had a frustrating 2009. Some of us were frustrated with finances, some frustrated with family, some of us with fitness, and some of us with our faith or spirituality. Frustration is a serious thing and it can help you or harm you. We have to realize what the frustration is telling us...Like I said before, the number one thing frustration is telling us is something on the outside is not matching with the dreams that are on the inside.
What pain frustration brings to us all, but I say to the dreamer and to the person with a strong drive to succeed it is even worse! We who believe in our Dreams and know in our souls and spirit that we have been purposed with destiny and a dream have the hardest time overcoming frustration because the heart beat of our Dreams get louder and louder each and every day. There is an old proverb that says "hope differed makes the heart sick" and what a true statement that is!!
The emotional tug that your dreams and goals pull on can almost be unbearable at times but it is at these times we must realize one important truth. That truth is you wouldn't be frustrated if you did not 100% believe that your dreams and goals were suppose to come true!! Those of you who are parents know that when your child brings home a bad grade and you get frustrated that you are frustrated because you are 100% certain that they can do better! To the singles who are frustrated at the dating game-you also are frustrated because in your heart of hearts you know that there is something better for you out there. What about those of us trying to lose weight or who are in business-you can be frustrated because you know that you can have a better body or business if you could just get over that last hurdle!!
The truth is I do not know anyone in the world who does not or has not experienced some degree of frustration!! What a way for us all to relate to one another-through our personal stories of frustration! So what can we do about this frustration?? I am glad you asked.
Back to the pregnant woman-as the time for her to give birth approaches she begins what they call nesting. A small period where us men say-"she went crazy!!" lol Just kidding. The reality is the woman begins to look at things different, she begins to rearrange everything in site. The crib next to the window gets moved to the wall, the chest by the wall gets moved to the window, and the chair next to the door gets moved out the room all together lol. Sounds comical doesn't it? The truth of the matter is it is not comical at all to the pregnant woman! So what is going on here??
The woman has realized that she is about to give birth and what she "thought" was in place to receive her child was not at all agreeing with what she sees on the inside of her or in her dreams!! I hope you are starting to get this powerful point! She realizes that she must re-evaluate the current situations and see what she has to "MOVE" in her life to be in order to receive her baby!! Then, once she has rearranged the room the baby is coming home to and it feels right-she turns to her husband and says "now I am ready!!"
It is an amazing thing to watch and it is almost like a puzzle. First she was frustrated then she put things in "order" according to what she felt was right and then she feels at peace in her soul and determines that she is now ready to give birth!! What an amazing display of clues given to us by nature!! It gets even better, then she begins a cycle of emotional frustration again because now that things are in order she knows well it is time to get the baby out!!
So one minute she is fine and the next she has lost her mind, but the Doctors say don't worry everything is normal that is just part of the "PROCESS" of giving birth! Ups and downs then more ups and downs then it is coming to the end of the process and doctors yell "PUSH"!!! After some heavy pushing, some blood, sweat and tears the baby is finally in her hands and it is like nothing ever happened...Absolutely amazing!!!
Did you see it??? Did you get the clues??? Frustration if used correctly can be one of the greatest motivating tools on earth to help you get your dreams accomplished!! It doesn't matter what the dream is:Finances, Family, Fitness, Faith, or Freetime use your frustrations as a clue that things need to be changed and put in order!
Once things are in order and you feel peace again then you are ready to deliver your baby or dream. Be ready because frustration comes back in the delivery room!! Ups and downs and then more ups and downs are not clues things are getting worse but they are clues that its time to birth that baby(DREAM!) Then when you just can not take it anymore then remember my story and WITH ALL YOUR MIGHT PUSH!!! Don't Give up you are almost there just look at the clues, get things back in order, rearrange what needs to be moved, and most importantly, when it is time PUSH!!!
I hope you like this blog and always comments and questions are appreciated and welcomed!!
Thanks
Nick Ruiz
If You need a boost to your Dreams and Finances check out My Best Seller in The UK-A True Life Story! Also available in The US at every Major Bookstore and online @ Barnes & Noble and Amazon.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Money-Steps-Surv
http://www.moneyandthe9steps.com
Life:Book Update-Barnes and Noble
It has been a while since I last wrote a Blog but I wanted to update you Guys on the exciting Start to 2010. My Book has been picked up Nationally by Barnes and Noble and many others, and I have a Book Signing Event at Barnes & Noble on Saturday January 9th, 2010.
I want all you to get your copies Today!! 2010 is here and it is time for No More Excuses!!! Get off to a Fresh Start in every area of your life Especially your Finances!!
The links below are a sample of all the sellers that have currently picked my Book up. We are being sold World Wide in France, India, Germany, Canada, Australia and even Japan!
The links below are a sample of all the sellers that have currently picked my Book up. We are being sold World Wide in France, India, Germany, Canada, Australia and even Japan!
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Event Date: Saturday, January 9th
Event Time: 1:00-3:00 p.m.
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Event Time: 1:00-3:00 p.m.
Store Address:
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Greenville, SC 29607
Life: Faith...Answers to Questions
I recently had a question about believing in the power of prayer when things have not turned out the way you have wanted them to.
I believe that we must first realize that for those who pray and believe in God that God is not under our laws of Time. For God a "Day is like a 1000 years and a 1000 years a day." I am not trying to discourage you in anyway, but this is first and an important part of God in regards to answered prayer.
The second thing we must realize is that God is a Father, and as a Father myself I realize that as much as I love my children I can not always give them what they want. I do not always give them what they want not because I do not want them to necessarily have it but rather to keep them from harm or in-correct timing.
For example if my son was to ask me for a knife to cut something I would tell him no for his obvious safety. If he said daddy I really want to learn to drive, but he is just a boy, I would tell him sure I will teach you to drive but wait for the right timing of age.
Many times we pray and do not see the answer "right away" and this could just be for one of two reasons...Either God knows what you want will cause you pain or harm or it is just not the right time. many times your answered prayer is on the way and its just "Delayed but not Denied!"
It would be foolish to go to the airport to pick up a friend or loved one and see the flight was delayed so you get discourage and say "I guess the plane is not coming so I am leaving." It is the same way with waiting for answered prayer...the answer could be on its way, but right before we receive our answer we do not recognize the delay and see it as a denial and give up way too soon.
But on the other hand let us also be realistic and learn to trust God for our best interest. Here is a story of a Man I know who prayed every day for a certain woman to become his wife. They dated on and off for sometime, and he was continually frustrated because he was not receiving his "answered" prayer to marry this woman. They eventually broke up for good and he was devastated. Years later he met a woman, they dated, and ended up getting married. The woman ended up being a catalyst to his future dreams and he accomplished alot because of her.
He came to me and told me his story and said the old phrase "Thank God for UN-Answered prayer" and I said on the contrary thank God for answered prayer!!
You see God always answers your prayer...either he answers it with a delay or a denial because of reasons you will see later, but he always answers prayer. So never stay discouraged if your request are going unmet just begin to trust that He is looking out for your best interest and what you truly need will come to pass!
Thanks and God Bless!
I believe that we must first realize that for those who pray and believe in God that God is not under our laws of Time. For God a "Day is like a 1000 years and a 1000 years a day." I am not trying to discourage you in anyway, but this is first and an important part of God in regards to answered prayer.
The second thing we must realize is that God is a Father, and as a Father myself I realize that as much as I love my children I can not always give them what they want. I do not always give them what they want not because I do not want them to necessarily have it but rather to keep them from harm or in-correct timing.
For example if my son was to ask me for a knife to cut something I would tell him no for his obvious safety. If he said daddy I really want to learn to drive, but he is just a boy, I would tell him sure I will teach you to drive but wait for the right timing of age.
Many times we pray and do not see the answer "right away" and this could just be for one of two reasons...Either God knows what you want will cause you pain or harm or it is just not the right time. many times your answered prayer is on the way and its just "Delayed but not Denied!"
It would be foolish to go to the airport to pick up a friend or loved one and see the flight was delayed so you get discourage and say "I guess the plane is not coming so I am leaving." It is the same way with waiting for answered prayer...the answer could be on its way, but right before we receive our answer we do not recognize the delay and see it as a denial and give up way too soon.
But on the other hand let us also be realistic and learn to trust God for our best interest. Here is a story of a Man I know who prayed every day for a certain woman to become his wife. They dated on and off for sometime, and he was continually frustrated because he was not receiving his "answered" prayer to marry this woman. They eventually broke up for good and he was devastated. Years later he met a woman, they dated, and ended up getting married. The woman ended up being a catalyst to his future dreams and he accomplished alot because of her.
He came to me and told me his story and said the old phrase "Thank God for UN-Answered prayer" and I said on the contrary thank God for answered prayer!!
You see God always answers your prayer...either he answers it with a delay or a denial because of reasons you will see later, but he always answers prayer. So never stay discouraged if your request are going unmet just begin to trust that He is looking out for your best interest and what you truly need will come to pass!
Thanks and God Bless!
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Life: Quit wasting Time & Accomplish your Goals!
On my last post I talked about giving yourself permission to have free time, but on this post I want to quickly flip the script.
There truly is nothing like procrastination, and I completely believe it is the number one killer to dreams! Day in and Day out we waste time just by saying "Oh I will get to that later or I will do that in a few minutes." All the while time and opportunities continue to pass us by!
Well I don't know about you but I am tired of it! I am tired of wasting time. Have you ever thought, I wonder how far along I could be if I could just quit wasting time. I know I have thought that. To put it in perspective, if you only waste 1 hour a day that is 30 hours a month. That is one whole day lost a month or about 2 weeks lost a year to procrastination!!! If you are just in your twenties you have already lost a full year of your Life to just wasting 1 hour a day!
I know for a fact most of us waste more then 1 hour a day, and each time we waste our time I believe we push our dreams away that much further. Think about it, for every hour you waste maybe your dream is one hour further from you accomplishing it! Think about that for a moment...
We have 4 months left in this year and instead of wasting an hour a day lets make a decision to be more productive towards reaching our goals. Lets be 1 hour more productive a day, and maybe your dreams and goals will be 1 hour closer to accomplishing them!
Get out your old New Years Resolutions and see how many things you have accomplished this year. See what you could have accomplished if you just spent 1 extra hour a day on it, and then think about what you have not accomplished because you wasted that same hour.
This is not a deep concept but if you really focus on it then you would realize how profound it really is.
Well I hope I have done my part to make you think Today, because I am definitely guilty of this too! So lets use these last four months of the year to catch up on our goals, and put 1 hour extra a day in making our Dreams a reality!
Although I totally believe in Free Time and one day hope to have all the free time I could ever want, I want to point out that if you are not careful you can easily fall into a cycle of wasting time. How do I know this because I have personally fallen into this cycle many times over. I am starting to realize that if you just can recognize this bad cycle when it starts you can begin to make the necessary changes to combat this obstacle.
There truly is nothing like procrastination, and I completely believe it is the number one killer to dreams! Day in and Day out we waste time just by saying "Oh I will get to that later or I will do that in a few minutes." All the while time and opportunities continue to pass us by!
Well I don't know about you but I am tired of it! I am tired of wasting time. Have you ever thought, I wonder how far along I could be if I could just quit wasting time. I know I have thought that. To put it in perspective, if you only waste 1 hour a day that is 30 hours a month. That is one whole day lost a month or about 2 weeks lost a year to procrastination!!! If you are just in your twenties you have already lost a full year of your Life to just wasting 1 hour a day!
I know for a fact most of us waste more then 1 hour a day, and each time we waste our time I believe we push our dreams away that much further. Think about it, for every hour you waste maybe your dream is one hour further from you accomplishing it! Think about that for a moment...
We have 4 months left in this year and instead of wasting an hour a day lets make a decision to be more productive towards reaching our goals. Lets be 1 hour more productive a day, and maybe your dreams and goals will be 1 hour closer to accomplishing them!
Get out your old New Years Resolutions and see how many things you have accomplished this year. See what you could have accomplished if you just spent 1 extra hour a day on it, and then think about what you have not accomplished because you wasted that same hour.
This is not a deep concept but if you really focus on it then you would realize how profound it really is.
Well I hope I have done my part to make you think Today, because I am definitely guilty of this too! So lets use these last four months of the year to catch up on our goals, and put 1 hour extra a day in making our Dreams a reality!
Life: Free Time-Just Relax!
I know I know, I have not Blogged in some time and those who read my blog are wondering why. The truth is that like many of you Life happens. Day to Day task become overwhelming, and things begin to pile up so that you just feel that you will never catch up.
Maybe you just are overworked or over-stressed? Who knows, but what I do know is that everyone needs a break sometime. You just can not keep going and going with out taking sometime to just relax.
That is what this quick blog is about-Free Time to just Relax! I just came back from a wonderful vacation to Florida and as I begin to get back in the grind of work I reminded of the fun I just had. I needed a break and I definitely needed fun so I took a break!
Well what if you can not go on vacation? How about just setting sometime each day to take a relaxing shower or take a quick relaxing walk. My point here is when is the last time you took out some time just for yourself? When was the last time you had fun, and just had "Free Time?"
For most of you I know it has just been too long. What I am beginning to realize is that no matter how driven I am or how focused I become, I will never accomplish as much if I don't take out the time to relax.
So that is my encouraging word for today-Go and enjoy yourself! Have some "Free Time" and just have fun!!! No pressure to do anything or meet a deadline, and stop worrying about what may or may not happen. Just Relax and enjoy the day. Smile at a stranger or laugh at a joke.
Remember the last fun time you had and wrap your imagination around that until the knots of stress in your body release. You will be surprised how a little "Free Time" can make all the difference in the world.
I hope this blog catches you off guard and hits you just where you needed it today!
Enjoy TODAY!!!
Maybe you just are overworked or over-stressed? Who knows, but what I do know is that everyone needs a break sometime. You just can not keep going and going with out taking sometime to just relax.
That is what this quick blog is about-Free Time to just Relax! I just came back from a wonderful vacation to Florida and as I begin to get back in the grind of work I reminded of the fun I just had. I needed a break and I definitely needed fun so I took a break!
Well what if you can not go on vacation? How about just setting sometime each day to take a relaxing shower or take a quick relaxing walk. My point here is when is the last time you took out some time just for yourself? When was the last time you had fun, and just had "Free Time?"
For most of you I know it has just been too long. What I am beginning to realize is that no matter how driven I am or how focused I become, I will never accomplish as much if I don't take out the time to relax.
So that is my encouraging word for today-Go and enjoy yourself! Have some "Free Time" and just have fun!!! No pressure to do anything or meet a deadline, and stop worrying about what may or may not happen. Just Relax and enjoy the day. Smile at a stranger or laugh at a joke.
Remember the last fun time you had and wrap your imagination around that until the knots of stress in your body release. You will be surprised how a little "Free Time" can make all the difference in the world.
I hope this blog catches you off guard and hits you just where you needed it today!
Enjoy TODAY!!!
Hope versus Intention: Do You Know the difference?
Are you hoping or Intending? I find that whenever I talk about topics such as think and grow rich or anything to do with achieving a goal, I often find that your success or failure can be wrapped up in two words. Hope or Intention. These are the two words that are keeping you either surviving or thriving. What is the difference...Well to hope is to have a goal that "Might" happen and to "Intend" is to "KNOW" that the goal will happen!
Here is a quick example: Have you ever heard someone say "I hope I lose 10 lbs this summer" and what happens??? Next summer they are still hoping the same thing.
Have you heard someone ever say "I am going to lose 10 lbs this summer!" and for that person they switched from "wishing" or "hoping" to "knowing" they were, no matter what, going to lose that weight.
Hoping keeps your thoughts in the future by always expecting that someday everything is going to be alright, Intention brings your expectation into the present by "Knowing its going to be alright" Now! Then you make up your mind that this "Is what YOU WILL or INTEND" to Do!
This is how things that you want begin to happen. Hope will keep you hoping, and intention will get you to your destination!
Once you understand the difference then you need to begin to look at your goals different. Make your goal, and begin to see it as "already done" or "know" it will happen. After you begin to switch your mentality then it is time to do the "work".
This is a major piece to the puzzle that most people miss. They want the end result and believe it will happen, but they do not do their part to making the goal happen.
This is like saying: I am going to win the lottery and you never buy a ticket. You can believe and intend all day long that you "Know that You Know" you are going to win, but if you don't get off your butt and buy a ticket you will not have any chance at it at ALL!!!
So what are you sitting on your butt about today? Having you set a goal, and You know it is going to happen but yet you still haven't done anything about it?
So what is your part in making your goals a reality? Your part is simply to do the next logical thing that will get you one step closer to your goal or intention. If your intention is I am going to lose the weight, then the next logical step is to go to the gym and get exercising. You see how this works? First you set an intention or goal then you do your part! It is that simple.
The last part is, once you begin to do your part do it with all your strength and with excellence! Do not expect a great result with minimal effort! Life just doe not work this way, so quit trying to cheat yourself from a meaningful achievement by giving half-hearted effort.
I hope you enjoyed this blog and always if you have a question then leave a comment and I will get back to you, and feel free to share this blog with your contacts!
Thanks.
Here is a quick example: Have you ever heard someone say "I hope I lose 10 lbs this summer" and what happens??? Next summer they are still hoping the same thing.
Have you heard someone ever say "I am going to lose 10 lbs this summer!" and for that person they switched from "wishing" or "hoping" to "knowing" they were, no matter what, going to lose that weight.
Hoping keeps your thoughts in the future by always expecting that someday everything is going to be alright, Intention brings your expectation into the present by "Knowing its going to be alright" Now! Then you make up your mind that this "Is what YOU WILL or INTEND" to Do!
This is how things that you want begin to happen. Hope will keep you hoping, and intention will get you to your destination!
Once you understand the difference then you need to begin to look at your goals different. Make your goal, and begin to see it as "already done" or "know" it will happen. After you begin to switch your mentality then it is time to do the "work".
This is a major piece to the puzzle that most people miss. They want the end result and believe it will happen, but they do not do their part to making the goal happen.
This is like saying: I am going to win the lottery and you never buy a ticket. You can believe and intend all day long that you "Know that You Know" you are going to win, but if you don't get off your butt and buy a ticket you will not have any chance at it at ALL!!!
So what are you sitting on your butt about today? Having you set a goal, and You know it is going to happen but yet you still haven't done anything about it?
So what is your part in making your goals a reality? Your part is simply to do the next logical thing that will get you one step closer to your goal or intention. If your intention is I am going to lose the weight, then the next logical step is to go to the gym and get exercising. You see how this works? First you set an intention or goal then you do your part! It is that simple.
The last part is, once you begin to do your part do it with all your strength and with excellence! Do not expect a great result with minimal effort! Life just doe not work this way, so quit trying to cheat yourself from a meaningful achievement by giving half-hearted effort.
I hope you enjoyed this blog and always if you have a question then leave a comment and I will get back to you, and feel free to share this blog with your contacts!
Thanks.
LIfe: Understanding Crisis when it Just Does not Make Sense
I recently had a Friend ask me about a crisis, and here was my response.
There was a story that helped me out in one crisis I had and it was about a boy who was at the Doctor with his father. The doctor came over to give the boy a shot of vaccination. The boy was hysterical while his father held him. The Father said nothing to the boy, other then it will be alright. The boy cried and was hysterical as he looked with tears in his eyes at his father.
The boy's face filled with pain and tears wondering how the man he loved could allow a stranger to cause him so much pain. At the end of the visit and after the tears were washed from the boy's face-The young boy turned to his father and said "Daddy why did you let him do that to me?" The Daddy replied "Son I had too because your body needed that shot. If I did not let you go through that pain then later in your life you could be prone to disease. Sometimes, son, what hurts you now will benefit you later, and know this...it hurt me just as much to see you in pain!"
Maybe that story will help and maybe it wont. It helped me put a perspective I so desperately needed at a time of Crisis in my life.
I am wishing you breakthrough and remember you are watched over and Loved.
There was a story that helped me out in one crisis I had and it was about a boy who was at the Doctor with his father. The doctor came over to give the boy a shot of vaccination. The boy was hysterical while his father held him. The Father said nothing to the boy, other then it will be alright. The boy cried and was hysterical as he looked with tears in his eyes at his father.
The boy's face filled with pain and tears wondering how the man he loved could allow a stranger to cause him so much pain. At the end of the visit and after the tears were washed from the boy's face-The young boy turned to his father and said "Daddy why did you let him do that to me?" The Daddy replied "Son I had too because your body needed that shot. If I did not let you go through that pain then later in your life you could be prone to disease. Sometimes, son, what hurts you now will benefit you later, and know this...it hurt me just as much to see you in pain!"
Maybe that story will help and maybe it wont. It helped me put a perspective I so desperately needed at a time of Crisis in my life.
I am wishing you breakthrough and remember you are watched over and Loved.
Life: Struggling with being single
I recently had a question asked on a comment on my "Secret" post. Its my goal to answer as many questions as I can to be a help to as many people as I can. I want to take the time now to address the question asked as I feel it will not help the person who asked it but anyone else going through similar struggles.-Enjoy!
Dear Mina,
First I want to thank you for taking the time to comment and ask questions on my blog. It takes guts to open yourself up and reveal your true self and emotions. In regards to your question I think the best way to describe what you are going through is a struggle being single.
Most women I know who are single go through this. Men are prone to this also, but the reason women have a greater struggle is because how they get their self-worth.
Let me explain in greater detail. A man will get his self-worth from his career or what he is capable of doing. If you ask a man to tell you about himself he will immediately tell you what he does for a living. He will talk about his career, his business, or his job. He eyes will beam with joy if he is doing well at his business, or if he has just received recognition or a promotion at his job. Although women can have a similar pride for their career I find that at the root of a woman's soul is relationships-let me explain.
You ask a woman to describe herself she will begin talking about her relationships in her life. She will say: "well I am engaged, I have a boyfriend, or I have two kids." Woman are relational and when a relationship is not functioning correctly or if it is not there at all women tend to deal with it negatively.
Woman tend to be more devoted then men and so if a woman does not have a strong relationship then that's when you will see her devout herself to a job or career because some women are trying to fill that void in their life for a connection. If they can not connect with a man then they will connect with a career and give it their all.
I say this so you can begin to understand why those lonely feeling or lack of self-worth feelings are there in the first place. Those feelings are there not because you need a man, but rather because its your strong desire to "have a man" which goes back to what I said about woman being more relational to men in regards to self-worth.
This is why, especially here in America, we are having a boom in older woman quiting their jobs and having kids. Women are now starting families in their 40's instead of their 20's because they substituted one desire for another. What I have seen in these cases are women who devoted themselves to a career and put on hold their desire for a family or relationship only to later have such a strong desire to "be with someone" overwhelm them to the point where they drop everything to start a family or relationship right away.
This where most damage is done in relationships. The desire for a partner or family is so strong that we almost feel like we are running out of time so we get the first available quality person we can find instead of finding the right person for you. I believe this is part of the reason why the divorce rate is so high.
Well let me get back to the issue at hand. Now that I have briefly explained why woman feel the need to "have someone" I want to help you figure out a way to feel complete without having to "have someone."
The key is back to understanding the function of a man and woman. A man processes most things through his primitive body and a woman processes things through her emotions or soul. That is why a Woman will often say "I don't have a connection with him", and a man might talk about his relationship by the physical attributes of his woman-"My girlfriend is so hot!" I am sure you recognize these statements in your experiences.
Remember we are body, soul. and spirit. The body just deals with the physical aspects of life through our senses, the soul deals with the emotional aspects through our mind and will, and the spirit is our intuition or our sixth sense which most people ignore and thus stays undeveloped.
I say that so you can realize that the problem lies in your ability to strengthen each part of yourself. The problem most people have is in their soul-where they deal with their emotions.
You have to begin to deal with your thoughts and feelings first before you can truly understand your self-worth.
If you get quite for a minute and just relax and breathe you will begin to see and hear your thoughts about yourself. You must understand that you are talking to yourself "All The Time!"
Whether out loud or in your head there is always some form of dialogue.
This is where most negativity is born-in our soul or mind. The only way to combat these negative thoughts and feeling is by talking back to these thoughts and feelings. It does not matter what other people say about you it only matters what you say about yourself and what you say to yourself. Some cultures look down on a woman if she is not married by a certain age and that adds to your stress, and negative thoughts and feelings multiply in your head.
The battle is truly in the mind, but the key is to use our spirit and our body to combat it. I will go into that in a second, but I want to address part of your original question.
You say you do not feel complete without a man and I have explained a little why you don't feel complete with-out a man. The other issue I see is your strongest time of joy was when you were with your man. This is where you must begin to regroup and plan ways for you to have joy and fun so that you are complete without a man.
Let me stop and say I believe relationships are wonderful and that it is God's gift to man but like I have said in previous post, we need to be two complete individuals coming together to benefit each other instead of two broken people trying to become complete. The problem then becomes trying to put together "Broken Pieces" instead of having a "Complete Portrait" of a beautiful life.
I really hope you find the man of your dreams, but in life you should "attract him" or "stumble upon him" while you are working on completing yourself. This is the work of every man or woman in any aspect of life. Do your best to be your best and more then fill your place on earth and you will attract or stumble upon "your hearts desires!"
So on a practical level here is how it works. Remember we are body, soul, and spirit and the problem starts in the soul or mind and emotions. Thoughts must be fought with thoughts and the only way to fight a thought is with a word. Words create thoughts and the that is why what you say to yourself is so important. If you entertain negative thoughts with out combating them with positive words then you allow those negative thoughts to breed in your mind and multiply until it becomes a negative cycle or depression.
So you must begin to write down every positive thing about yourself and life and anything positive thing you want to see happen in your life. Once you have written these things down as positive sentences then begin to speak them out loud in the morning and at night and anytime a negative thought comes in your head. See this as sowing and reaping. For years you have been sowing and reaping negativity and now you will use these new seeds or words to create a better harvest for your life.
Next you want to go to the body. Exercise, enjoy nature, or do anything that brings you laughter and happiness through your senses. For me this is a funny movie or a walk in the park where I can relieve stress. This will add the physical element to completing yourself.
Finally its the spirit. To activate your spirit start by being grateful for what you have already, and detach yourself from the emotion of having to have a man now. You can believe that the perfect man is on the way, and be grateful to God for him and then release that attachment to that feeling or need and go on with your day in gratitude. This is truly "the Secret" to manifestation of your dreams. The next part of the spirit is trust and believe that the best is on its way to you and the begin to start to trust your intuition and gut feelings again. We all have that internal feeling that says "this is right or this is wrong", but the problem is we question it too much. We have to start to exercise our conscious again so we can release our spirit to help guide us again.
I am sure we have all had an experience when we felt like something was wrong inside us and we ignored that feeling only to later realize that we should have listened to that feeling! That is what your spirit is there for-to help you make the right choices.
So that is the end of this story for right now as I have written an essay to answer this question lol. I truly appreciate someone half way across the world taking the time to write from the middle east! I hope I have been of some help and feel free to ask a question or comment anytime. Also please share this blog with as many people as you can as I am trying to be a help to as many people as I can.
Thanks and God Bless!
Dear Mina,
First I want to thank you for taking the time to comment and ask questions on my blog. It takes guts to open yourself up and reveal your true self and emotions. In regards to your question I think the best way to describe what you are going through is a struggle being single.
Most women I know who are single go through this. Men are prone to this also, but the reason women have a greater struggle is because how they get their self-worth.
Let me explain in greater detail. A man will get his self-worth from his career or what he is capable of doing. If you ask a man to tell you about himself he will immediately tell you what he does for a living. He will talk about his career, his business, or his job. He eyes will beam with joy if he is doing well at his business, or if he has just received recognition or a promotion at his job. Although women can have a similar pride for their career I find that at the root of a woman's soul is relationships-let me explain.
You ask a woman to describe herself she will begin talking about her relationships in her life. She will say: "well I am engaged, I have a boyfriend, or I have two kids." Woman are relational and when a relationship is not functioning correctly or if it is not there at all women tend to deal with it negatively.
Woman tend to be more devoted then men and so if a woman does not have a strong relationship then that's when you will see her devout herself to a job or career because some women are trying to fill that void in their life for a connection. If they can not connect with a man then they will connect with a career and give it their all.
I say this so you can begin to understand why those lonely feeling or lack of self-worth feelings are there in the first place. Those feelings are there not because you need a man, but rather because its your strong desire to "have a man" which goes back to what I said about woman being more relational to men in regards to self-worth.
This is why, especially here in America, we are having a boom in older woman quiting their jobs and having kids. Women are now starting families in their 40's instead of their 20's because they substituted one desire for another. What I have seen in these cases are women who devoted themselves to a career and put on hold their desire for a family or relationship only to later have such a strong desire to "be with someone" overwhelm them to the point where they drop everything to start a family or relationship right away.
This where most damage is done in relationships. The desire for a partner or family is so strong that we almost feel like we are running out of time so we get the first available quality person we can find instead of finding the right person for you. I believe this is part of the reason why the divorce rate is so high.
Well let me get back to the issue at hand. Now that I have briefly explained why woman feel the need to "have someone" I want to help you figure out a way to feel complete without having to "have someone."
The key is back to understanding the function of a man and woman. A man processes most things through his primitive body and a woman processes things through her emotions or soul. That is why a Woman will often say "I don't have a connection with him", and a man might talk about his relationship by the physical attributes of his woman-"My girlfriend is so hot!" I am sure you recognize these statements in your experiences.
Remember we are body, soul. and spirit. The body just deals with the physical aspects of life through our senses, the soul deals with the emotional aspects through our mind and will, and the spirit is our intuition or our sixth sense which most people ignore and thus stays undeveloped.
I say that so you can realize that the problem lies in your ability to strengthen each part of yourself. The problem most people have is in their soul-where they deal with their emotions.
You have to begin to deal with your thoughts and feelings first before you can truly understand your self-worth.
If you get quite for a minute and just relax and breathe you will begin to see and hear your thoughts about yourself. You must understand that you are talking to yourself "All The Time!"
Whether out loud or in your head there is always some form of dialogue.
This is where most negativity is born-in our soul or mind. The only way to combat these negative thoughts and feeling is by talking back to these thoughts and feelings. It does not matter what other people say about you it only matters what you say about yourself and what you say to yourself. Some cultures look down on a woman if she is not married by a certain age and that adds to your stress, and negative thoughts and feelings multiply in your head.
The battle is truly in the mind, but the key is to use our spirit and our body to combat it. I will go into that in a second, but I want to address part of your original question.
You say you do not feel complete without a man and I have explained a little why you don't feel complete with-out a man. The other issue I see is your strongest time of joy was when you were with your man. This is where you must begin to regroup and plan ways for you to have joy and fun so that you are complete without a man.
Let me stop and say I believe relationships are wonderful and that it is God's gift to man but like I have said in previous post, we need to be two complete individuals coming together to benefit each other instead of two broken people trying to become complete. The problem then becomes trying to put together "Broken Pieces" instead of having a "Complete Portrait" of a beautiful life.
I really hope you find the man of your dreams, but in life you should "attract him" or "stumble upon him" while you are working on completing yourself. This is the work of every man or woman in any aspect of life. Do your best to be your best and more then fill your place on earth and you will attract or stumble upon "your hearts desires!"
So on a practical level here is how it works. Remember we are body, soul, and spirit and the problem starts in the soul or mind and emotions. Thoughts must be fought with thoughts and the only way to fight a thought is with a word. Words create thoughts and the that is why what you say to yourself is so important. If you entertain negative thoughts with out combating them with positive words then you allow those negative thoughts to breed in your mind and multiply until it becomes a negative cycle or depression.
So you must begin to write down every positive thing about yourself and life and anything positive thing you want to see happen in your life. Once you have written these things down as positive sentences then begin to speak them out loud in the morning and at night and anytime a negative thought comes in your head. See this as sowing and reaping. For years you have been sowing and reaping negativity and now you will use these new seeds or words to create a better harvest for your life.
Next you want to go to the body. Exercise, enjoy nature, or do anything that brings you laughter and happiness through your senses. For me this is a funny movie or a walk in the park where I can relieve stress. This will add the physical element to completing yourself.
Finally its the spirit. To activate your spirit start by being grateful for what you have already, and detach yourself from the emotion of having to have a man now. You can believe that the perfect man is on the way, and be grateful to God for him and then release that attachment to that feeling or need and go on with your day in gratitude. This is truly "the Secret" to manifestation of your dreams. The next part of the spirit is trust and believe that the best is on its way to you and the begin to start to trust your intuition and gut feelings again. We all have that internal feeling that says "this is right or this is wrong", but the problem is we question it too much. We have to start to exercise our conscious again so we can release our spirit to help guide us again.
I am sure we have all had an experience when we felt like something was wrong inside us and we ignored that feeling only to later realize that we should have listened to that feeling! That is what your spirit is there for-to help you make the right choices.
So that is the end of this story for right now as I have written an essay to answer this question lol. I truly appreciate someone half way across the world taking the time to write from the middle east! I hope I have been of some help and feel free to ask a question or comment anytime. Also please share this blog with as many people as you can as I am trying to be a help to as many people as I can.
Thanks and God Bless!
